First, you care about other more
you love, do not identify each other’s ideas; you think you are right, he seemed to not agree; in his absence you want him, you do not, he did not seem to difference, does that mean?
\They take turns playing the role of pursuing and being pursued; but if one side is always to play their personal feelings do not sound like a long time go, you will love hunger, you will feel by the other control, you will feel angry, cheated and pain.
Second, your love is their potential
you love is their potential, rather than the other really, the way you love the other side could look like the future, he is not your partner, but you transformation of the object.
Each time we make pre-marital counseling will be asked, if the other 50 years will not change, you will be satisfied with it? If you still want change each other, then they would feel more satisfied, it is not love, but gambling with the happiness of both parties as a bet.
your dealings with a person, to love and respect each other to form, rather than his future look like, you can expect him to continue to grow, but you have to satisfied with the way he is.
Third, you want to help each other
you often feel each other miserable? Do you think you have the responsibility to help cheer each other up? If you are not afraid to leave the other side, he will not stand against? If so, you probably is a \
\Find a traumatized, vulnerable, dependent, not loved, aggrieved person and you love by the pity of Health, he will appreciate your heart health, feeling like such a rescue mission, not a sound, balanced emotions.
key to remember here is \, but you really know him.
4, to each other as objects of worship
young actress fell in love with the director, professor of college students fall in love, fall in love with the boss … … Secretary, fall in love with the object of worship, these feelings difficult to maintain normal, because of lack of equal treatment between the two.
both men and women must be treated equally, I do not mean position, but the attitude, not excessive worship each other. Fall in love with the objects of worship, often low self-confidence, they feel bad.
5, you are just attracted by the other party looks
everyone that, right? If you find a character that they have been attracted to each other, to ask ourselves if there is no other pair of blue eyes, magnetic voice … … If the other party is not a model, will not play basketball … …, I will be with him (her) with it? Appearance is the first productive forces men
6, a brief opportunity to be together day and night
you and each other to share a job, often with overtime, so you feel in love with each other … …. You go on vacation for three weeks, know a man has to resort, you feel like falling in love … …. Short morning till evening, is under special circumstances Minato together, not conventional, this feeling will not last long, because a short time from morning till evening, not so that you fully understand each other’s personality.
7, in order to rebel before choosing this object
parents always told you stressed the need to find a rich object, happens every boyfriend you are poor wretch; childhood parents strict discipline you, but why each of your girlfriend too casual; childhood father remainding , mass incense is the most important thing, but why can not your girlfriend is not health, is not health … …
If you selected an object, always make their parents angry, it is possible that you just wanted to rebel, you felt the need to prove anything to fight back, when you can not control their own choice, you do not really love each other, this relationship is doomed to no avail.
8, the other party is not free themselves
I leave this point to the last, because it can not be feeling. Chosen life companion of the first is that the other party is \\
If you love the man and another woman agreed to break up earlier; or he says he does not love the woman he loves you; or to accept his original object your presence, they do not intend to break up, but he wants to be with you for a while; or he just broke up, but it may reunion … …, these are not free itself.
other and married or those who object interaction, no matter what the excuse, the results are the same, you are doomed to heartbreak. Remember, you only had some left over another person.
choice in your hands, the responsibility to you, you picked the right person. If you have contacts in the object, and you are feeling one of the eight mentioned above, go to counseling, do not waste time, there is a better target in the other you
9. Love is not a reply to one certain failure
……
Filed Under :
Jun.30,2010